Now we
command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye
withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not
after the tradition which he received of us. – 2 Thess. 3:6
A brother or sister "quits
the church," or more correctly quits the Lord. Is there anything the church
can do beyond urging them to return? Usually when we suggest that maybe the
church should consider withdrawing from such a one, we are faced with: "You
can't withdraw from those who have withdrawn themselves." We do not believe
that those who raise this objection are willfully trying to avoid
responsibility for discipline. I have heard it from some of the finest and
more conscientious brethren that I know. But, I do believe that they have a
misconception of the withdrawing process.
There is more to
"withdrawing yourselves" than making a formal announcement at church and
then no longer "using them" in a public way. Many seem to think that since
the quitter no longer attends and participates in congregational activities
that this constitutes his having withdrawn himself so we cannot "withdraw
our fellowship" since the quitter has already withdrawn himself. But this
solution to the problem will not do.
We suspect that part of the
problem is that of referring to discipline as "withdrawing fellowship." The
scriptures refer to "withdrawing yourselves." There is a difference. When
one withdraws himself it is true that his spiritual fellowship is withdrawn,
but it goes beyond that. One withdraws his person, his company, or his
social association from the offending party. Surely one can do this even
though the brother or sister no longer attends the meetings of the church.
Such withdrawal or isolation is designed to make the offender ashamed of his
conduct and produce repentance. If Christians refuse to have any social
association with such a one and let him know why he can have none then we
believe many would feel the pressure and be restored that probably would
otherwise be lost. Of course, this severing of company does not preclude
contacts for the purpose of admonishing
(2 Thess.
3.15) and/or
fulfilling other obligations one may have toward the person.
I have know many who have
"withdrawn themselves" who continue to enjoy the day to association with
Christians. That association has not been severed at all. It is precisely
the company ("mixing up with" — Vine's Dictionary) that must be withdrawn.
(See
1 Cor. 5:9-13; 2 Thess. 3:14).
Such a person can still be "marked" or "noted" by the church and then each
member can withdraw his company (association) that the one might be ashamed.
The concept that we cannot
withdraw from the withdrawn (meaning one who no longer attends) because he
has withdrawn himself presents still another problem. Suppose a brother (or
sister) becomes an adulterer but still attends all services, sings, bows in
prayer, eats the Lord's supper, etc. (we have known this to happen) — can
the church withdraw from him?
"Of course, they can," you
say
But wait a minute. Does the
fact that he still attends regularly and participates in worship not mean
that he refuses to be withdrawn from? How can the church withdraw from one
who refuses to be withdrawn from?
"But, we can't keep him from
coming and participating," you say.
Right!
"We can announce that we no
longer fellowship him."
Right again!
"Each member can refuse to
associate with him on a day to day basis.”
Right one more time!
"After all, we can 'withdraw
ourselves' from him even though he is regular in attendance and participates
in the worship."
Now, my brother, you are
beginning to gel the point! If the fact that one quits means that he has
"withdrawn himself” and we cannot withdraw from him — if one refuses to quit
it must mean that there is nothing further we can do, since he refuses to be
withdrawn from. If not, why not?
I believe that we can mark
and refuse to company with a brother who walks disorderly whether or not he
attends services. In fact, the very refusal to attend faithfully is walking
disorderly and is grounds for marking and withdrawing ourselves.